@jayetothekaye

In need of a weekend extension or a boost for your workout? Check out the new (Peak Time) Techno set I dropped on my SoundCloud (link in bio)! - Picture taken by @lunaelisha at @milqevents ?

2025-08-17

KING’S DAY 2025 Thanks to all who came to dance and celebrate! Thanks to @regulierscelebrates for having me! Thanks to @jordiekolukisa for these captures! ?

2025-05-03

In one week the streets of Amsterdam will turn orange again to celebrate King’s Day! Between 17:00 - 18:30, on April 26th, I will be taking care of the beats for @regulierscelebrates. And to start getting you in the mood I just dropped my Pride set from last year on my SoundCloud (find the link in my bio). Swipe left for some previews… ? See you there!

2025-04-19

RIDING THE PERFECT STORM: A while ago I’ve been confronted with my perfectionism and how it can block me from living a happy life. I used to be proud of my perfectionism and thought it was something that propelled me into success. Perfectionism is often mistaken for a simple drive for excellence, but in reality, it can be an exhausting cycle, one where self-worth is measured against impossible standards. While high standards can push us to achieve great things, perfectionism can also lead to anxiety, procrastination, burnout, and a constant sense of never being good enough. If you find yourself trapped in this cycle, here are some ways to loosen its grip: ✨ Challenge your expectations: Are your standards realistic, or are they setting you up for disappointment? Ask yourself: Would I expect a friend to meet these same demands? ✨ Recognize the costs: Perfectionism can drain your energy, harm relationships, and leave you feeling unsatisfied no matter how much you accomplish. Reflect on whether these high expectations are truly serving you. ✨ Start small: Instead of waiting until something is “perfect”, take action with what you have. Set manageable goals and gradually allow yourself to embrace “good enough”. Progress is more important than perfection. ✨ Reframe failure: Making mistakes doesn’t mean you’re failing, it means you’re learning. Growth happens when we allow ourselves to be imperfect and keep moving forward. ✨ Shift your focus: Instead of measuring your worth by achievements, focus on who you are beyond what you accomplish. You are valuable, just as you are. Perfection doesn’t exist, but balance does. Learning to ease up on rigid standards doesn’t mean lowering your potential, it means creating space for success and self-acceptance. Because in the end, a fulfilled life isn’t about being perfect; it’s about being whole.

2025-03-06

THIRTY THE SEQUEL PART II - In My Birthday Suit. Two years ago I thought my thirties would be dirty. Now I’m happy with stability, peace of mind, serenity and some occasional dirtiness served on the side… To enhance the birthday mood I dropped my (Melodic) Techno set on my SoundCloud (check BIO for link). Swipe left for some previews! ✌?

2025-02-08

Stop & Reflect. Sometimes I catch myself glorifying the hustle and thinking that progress only comes from constantly moving forward. But running around without a clear direction and no time to reflect may lead me to dead ends and patterns of exhaustion. Take a breath. Pause. Reflect. When we give ourselves time to look back, we see how far we’ve come, lessons we’ve learned, and the strength we’ve gained. It offers us a perspective on a glass that’s half full in stead of half empty. Reflection isn’t about staying stuck; it’s about realigning the journey with the purpose. I believe life isn’t just about reaching the next milestone, it’s about appreciating the path that got us here.

2025-01-20

2024, a year of transformation, you marked the end of an era. Thank you for your many lessons and insights. Three things I intend to leave in 2024 are: 1. Shame 2. Resentment 3. People pleasing Last weekend I got to end the year with one of my favorite passions; making people happy by moving their bodies and feet to music. It was a transcendent experience for myself and I thank everything and everyone involved for the strength, support and resilience to be able to successfully navigate my first gig in sobriety. Special thanks to @ballroomparty (@markhartmann & @janekonchakov) for the opportunity and @worldofjoeyploch for the mental support, encouragement and fun ?? Like every year, 2025 is YOUR year! ✨

2025-01-01

Picking up life again. Close to three weeks back in The Netherlands and I’m going through the few visual memories I was able to create during my journey towards a better life in South Africa. Next to getting a glimpse of the majesty of this country with unfiltered eyes and a present mind, I realized this journey has gifted me many tools and insights which I now need to practice… Currently I feel calm, the storm in my head has passed, and I can finally think clearly again. Overthinking, overanalyzing, and fighting life’s terms only kept me stuck. I’m learning to accept the things I cannot change. This journey has pushed me to confront my escapism, my avoidant tendencies, and the masks I’ve worn to navigate life: the introvert posing as an extrovert, the queer man passing as straight, the addict passing as functional. These masks, born of perfectionism and a need for control, made it hard to embrace vulnerability. They became so ingrained that I’ve often felt like a chameleon and struggled to know who I truly am. By practicing honesty, transparency and exposing shameful experiences I’m gaining confidence and it allows me to face things head on. Being a chameleon, I’ve struggled in life to have a strong sense of belonging; feeling like an outcast and a wallflower, while trying to be a cool kid. Being yourself should be the easiest thing in life, yet it can become so difficult in a society with many expectations, social pressure and fear of judgement, in the end we’re all trying to survive in this crazy, beautiful world and sometimes we’re willing to sacrifice parts of ourselves just to get by. But it’s liberating to step away from perfection and embrace growth, even here, on platforms built on the illusion of flawlessness. For now, I’ll just keep on being. ?

2024-12-17

Some may know me as that Instagram boy with the punny captions, the extravagant life, always ready with a smize, a joke, or some reposted wisdom. Others might see me as reserved, unapproachable, or as soft and introverted. While I may be all of those things, what many may not know is that I’ve been hiding behind the phrase, “I’m fine,” struggling in silence. Sometimes the hardest smiles are the ones we wear to convince the world we’re okay, when deep down, I wasn’t. I’ve been battling substance abuse and addiction. After trying to fight it alone for too long, I’ve made the decision to do what I thought I didn’t need: accept help. In the past 10 years, I’ve made connections, danced my ass off, had deep talks in strangers’ kitchens (things that felt unthinkable for a sober introvert) on or through drugs. But I’ve also experienced losses, estrangements, and neglect, especially from myself. I’ve lost sleep, neglected my body and spirit, hurt those around me, and left people hanging when they needed me. Being closed off was my way to “survive”, but it wasn’t a way to “vive” (French for “to live”). Now, I’m learning to lower my walls, turn my face to the light, and leave the shadows behind. Like Uncle Iroh once said: “Pride is not the opposite of shame, but its source. True humility is the only antidote to shame.” This journey is about healing, overcoming shame, and reclaiming my life, while making amends to those I’ve hurt. Now I’ve been sober for 15 days, and in 3 days I’m flying to South Africa for treatment. I’ll have limited access to my phone and no social media for 6 weeks. A blessing which hopefully helps me reconnect with who I am and what truly makes me happy, so I can share that with the world when I’m ready. I plan to resolve my traumas and let go of the heavy mental baggage I’ve carried for years, hoping to never need substances to “feel” or “function” again. This is a letter to myself to commit to this journey, and if my honesty helps even one person, it’s worth it. Here’s to recovery, one day at a time. For real this time… I’m gonna be doing fine. Finally. Enjoy your weekend, responsibly ?? Love, Jeroen

2024-10-12